Real Women Build Each Other Up

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Seeing this quote, struck a chord.

Have you been wounded by other women? I know I have. Sometimes I think because we are the same gender we have an "in" with each other. Unfortunately, that's not always the case.  From when I befriended the new girl in school, introduced her to others and was soon left out, to my first female boss who used harsh words to criticize me, to my roommate dating the guy I was dating - behind my back. I haven't always had the best experiences. Wounds from other women cut deep and are slow to heal. But through the healing I became strong, resilient and my character is refined.

I am not here to tear down but to build up. Tearing others down makes me part of the problem, building others up flexes my muscles. We all have our stories, we all have past hurts. Hurts can destroy us, end of story, but push through the hurt and learn so the story continues. I screw up and make mistakes all the time. I say the wrong thing or respond the wrong way. I used to wallow in the hurt. Now I take the sting, process it, learn, adjust and move on.

There is always more to the story. My roommate ended up marrying the guy. They have 3 beautiful kids. We are still friends. I love her.  When I visit her we laugh like no time has passed. At the time it hurt but I learned to forgive. Forgiveness freed me, empowered me, and made me stronger. Don't be crushed by your current circumstances but be empowered that there is something more, deeper, richer going on.

I believe in you. I want good things for you. I want to encourage you. I want to inspire you to love well.

Write a comment below; I want to know I am not alone. Have you been hurt by others? How has your hurt been used for good?